Sunday....

There is a pattern emerging with JV. Whenever we're supposed to make a trip to see a movie he has to 'spend time with his daughters'. Which are grown mind you. This is the third time he has pulled this bullshit. I think I am kind of done.

The thing with divorced guys, is they usually don't go into any kind of therapy to find out what they can do better going forward. How they can prevent another relationship from falling apart. So all of the bullshit bad habits, and selfishness that caused their wives to find someone else, are still firmly intact for the next woman. I don't do well with that kind of stuff.

Some women refuse to date men with children. His are GROWN as I have mentioned. So the annoyed feeling I would get from him just spending time with his kids is amplified because they aren't children, they are grown women. He made plans with me. He bailed on them to do this, I am extremely annoyed. I really would like to discuss this with him and try and see if he is actually interested in dating. MEN USE THEIR KIDS AS AN EXCUSE TO BE UNAVAILABLE JUST LIKE WOMEN DO.

I guess I thought because they were grown I wouldn't have to deal with this. But I guess I do. I tried calling but no answer. This is unacceptable. 

Period.
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I got in touch. It didn't make matters better to know that he and his grown daughters came to Hollywood to eat and hang out too. I expressed myself calmly and openly without accusing or using angry language. I did however try and clarify that the last time he was here that we'd made plans to see each other today. He claims we didn't. That he would 'try' and see me today. When I spoke to him earlier today he had to do two quick jobs then he would be over to see me. He never said that either apparently. It started sounding like the 'this isn't working out' talk. Then it was the 'I don't have the time' talk then it morphed into the 'we'll work this out' talk. 

I am not going to hold my breath for him to make time for me. This whole thing today has put a bad taste in my mouth really. I can forgive it, because when you start getting to know someone there will be missteps. That's a given. You can move past them if you want. People sometimes start sort of hinting around about you, and might mention IDK say that you are a different race, and the friends and family disapprove and suddenly you get a bunch of back peddling. I have experienced this a thousand times. Suddenly their schedule is soooOOoooo full, and they are so busy. Or they do something to purposely piss you off so they can pull the 'this isn't working out' card when you call them on their bullshit. Your anger may be perfectly justified but they use the 'you are an emotionally sensitive woman' excuse to exit. 

Some people don't see you as their dreamgirl so they don't put in much effort. Or they may have thought they could get you in bed quickly because they thought you would be loose and when that didn't happen they fall off and lose interest. Whichever, I don't really plan to hear from him any time soon.