Everyone has favorites lists on these sites. People you think you would like to date. I think of it like a man bank. I am saving up to date these guys, or even try and talk to them. Some of them I have and they ignored me. Which is par for the course. People contact us and we ignore them, we contact people and they ignore us. It's a cycle. All of the men on my list of course are not only easy on the eyes, but have decent profiles. We have stuff in common at least. Some of them are other races, which you never really know if they secretly will not date you because you aren't the same race as them. I guess white & Latino women are notorious for saying they don't date black guys. Because there are many times I will read a black man's profile and he will make some reference to it. The irony here is if I see a brotha who has some stuff on the ball, nice looking, decent body ( he doesn't have to be chiseled or anything, just not sloppy fat ) some education and culture, has read some books and may have a sense of adventure. I get crickets. I can't imagine they read my profile and then say 'nah this girl and I have nothing in common' because we do and that is why I wrote him in the first place. I sometimes they have categorically excluded their own kind from their dating repertoire. They are too good to date black women. Especially alt guys. They have spent most of their lives avoiding us, that when one of us comes into view they can't see us anymore. I have a suspicion my 3 year crush smokes weed after all. Even if he does work at a hospital. He's always posting about Colorado and how weed has stopped crime there. I full expect him to pick up and move there any day now. I am open to dating other races, but we have to be on the same page. I admit finding it difficult to be attracted to white guys because of all the shit I have been through. I think on some level I'd rather not. When I was in Washington that's all there was, but when it came down to it we had nothing in common. If I met a white dude I had a lot in common with I would most likely date him. It's weird how I feel silly perusing my own kind because at almost every turn there are road blocks. I never gave much thought to class ism. However as I get older I do see that there is a need for a certain class of man. However these are not the men that approach me on line or off. I have to get in their social orbit and meet them organically. I have a feeling starting my own business will help that. Going to black business owners meetings, and events. I have a lot of work to do to get the life I want.
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